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Changing The Stigma Of Helping Others

The Challenge of Commitment Today

Commitment – the dictionary meaning of the word is…

the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, or activity.

It really doesn’t do the word justice. Because it means something that is rare in today’s humanity. Committing to show up, to be there no matter what, and to keep your promise is lost in a time of slower society and less chaotic day-to-day lives.

I’m an optimist. Every day my eyes open I’m thankful for what I have and what I can provide others. But people today seem to forget what it is to volunteer their time and effort to someone else who truly need it. Maybe it’s as simple as offering to help your friend move from his apartment. Maybe you are tired that day and decide to make up an excuse to bail. It means nothing to you, but it meant everything to your friend who needed help.

How many people would show up today to help someone move? Or do people today keep asking the question, “What’s in it for me?” People convince themselves that the consequence for not showing up isn’t a big deal, but for each time they do this, they show others that they are unreliable and that commitment isn’t high on their priority list.

All around me, I’m reminded of the sheer power we have to either commit to make a change, or stay stagnant in the comfortable shoes we wear. It feels though something has shifted from a time when a commitment was your word and your word was who you were as a person.  I was raised to believe that saying yes to help someone, meant you showed up. My Dad’s word was always his bond and anyone who knows him, knows he doesn’t break a promise.

In a world where we’ve grown to understand self-love in a deeper manner, it has also led us to believe that we live in a bubble; that our decisions don’t affect others. We have adopted the mindset that we should come first and that if we don’t want to do something we don’t have to. And while I applaud our ability to become more independent and verbally express our needs and wants, I fear we’ve switched off a vital part of our humanity. In our pursuit of happiness, we’ve forgotten we cannot exist without the love and kindness of others. We have forgotten that we all gain strength and understanding when we surround ourselves with others who we can learn and grow from.

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As humans, we can aspire to be whomever we choose. We all have the potential to become great and to show others what greatness is. It’s innate in us to want to find our purpose and our place in this world.  But we are always putting limitations on ourselves. We create a ‘fixed mindset’ – Change is uncomfortable. But change is inevitable. What if you could create your own platform for change?

Our Deepest Fear is that we are Powerful beyond measure.

It Took A Village

My Grandpa used to tell me stories about when he was a kid. It was a village mindset where neighbours helped with your baby, you cooked for the sick, and you asked for help when you needed it. Farming was done together and the women all gathered to support each other. When someone moved in, people in the area would come over and introduce themselves and bring an apple pie. The village mentality is long gone and now we are all about the ONE. Many people go years without even meeting their neighbours.

People don’t go out of their way to offer their time to others, because their time seems to be a commodity. Everyone’s time is worth something.

But what if there was a way to reinstall that feeling of community?

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Creating Something From Something

So many years ago I recognized in myself the need to heal and fix people. I was the friend everyone talked to about their problems. I came to believe my need to help was a negative, because I couldn’t always fix the problem. The reality is, I couldn’t fix people who didn’t want to be fixed. I became the one to offer advice in broken marriages (even though clearly I was no expert after two divorces). I was logical and could set aside emotions. I could talk, and apparently what came out of my mouth made sense to others. But it was emotionally exhausting and I evolved into spending a lot of time alone afterward. Anyone who knows me would likely say, “I don’t even like people that much.” It’s a skewed statement but not entirely wrong. I’m an introvert-extrovert. I’m a chameleon who can be whatever I need to be in whatever situation presents itself. I’m good on the spot and I can talk. But I would prefer to be alone, reading a book, or anything that didn’t involve people. I don’t like crowds and I loathe Costco shopping experiences.

But somehow I ended up a Mom of four kids who crawled all over me. I ended up being a surrogate three times for complete strangers. My Dad will tell you that he didn’t even think I wanted kids. I wanted to travel and see the world. It’s all true, and yet somehow who I became defied all odds.

A divorced, single Mom of four kids found herself starting a business that was saturated with intense emotions, new people daily, and mounds of responsibility. I created Canadian Surrogacy Community from something I had deep inside me. I had an understanding of people, even if I wasn’t naturally social. I was able to listen and hear things that were between the lines. I studied people and what they had to offer in their tones, facial expressions, and my intuitive nature led me to help people in one of the worst places of their lives – struggling with creating their family. It was the one thing that had come easy for me.

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And it filled a void in me I didn’t know existed. But it became more than that. I started realizing how much I could empower other women to reach a potential like no other. A capacity to change the world.

I love meeting new women who inspire me with their strength and goodness.

I found purpose in the part of me that was always trying to fix others.

I became a place of hope for so many people looking for answers.

I created a world that made sense to me.

A Promise is A Promise

To enroll in my surrogacy program, it involves a level of commitment beyond most. Deciding to be a surrogate requires a promise – a promise to put someone else before yourself. It’s a promise to sacrifice your bodily comfort, to willingly accept stretch marks, saggy skin, morning sickness, and a sore butt from daily injections. The sacrifice requires one to completely understand that their decisions will affect someone else now.  You are allowing them into your family. You are becoming one. You have to be empathetic, kind, and have the ability to put yourself into their shoes, as they give up all control.

Intended Parents desperately need you. It might be a woman struggling with infertility, or a gay couple who have limited options to begin with. What brought them to a place of having to ask a woman who is a complete stranger to carry life for them? How does one humble themselves enough? To be in a position to help someone – what an immense power to hold within.  You could say, what’s in it for me? Or you can come to the deep understanding that life is about love and there is no greater kind of love than to give of yourself in an act of complete selflessness. The kind of love you have for your children – imagine having the power to give that to someone else.

The Strength of Women

Women are a deep pool of repressed strength. So many don’t discover how rich their kindness is, and how transferable that kindness can be when we give it the power to flourish. Women united are a force that can turn the tides. Surrogacy unites us as a community. The women I have met in the surrogacy world are some of the fiercest, most dedicated people to walk into my life. I am grateful for them and know I’m better to have known them. And as I continue to bring awareness to the issue of surrogacy, I continue to meet women who don’t understand the strength they possess deep within.

  • I don’t know if I can give a baby up.
  • I would love to be a surrogate when my life is less chaotic.
  • I’m worried how it will affect my family
  • Why sacrifice so much and get nothing in return

While all these comments and questions are legitimate, they are as equally easy for me to answer.

  • You aren’t giving a baby up; you are giving it back. It isn’t your baby to begin with.
  • Life will always be chaotic. We often use this excuse when deciding anything in our own world, including starting our own family.
  • How your family is affected is truly up to you. Put a positive spin on it and voila, you have one of the most meaningful lessons you can teach your kids about life; helping someone simply because you can.
  • While my personal feelings on financial compensation are not the issue here, I understand this question can be loaded for many. In truth, you get so much more in return than you can possibly know. Giving the gift of life to someone is a euphoria like no other. It’s a drug; an addiction for those who have been through it. That feeling of watching a couple hold their baby for the first time brings such a sense of accomplishment and pride. Nothing is comparable to that feeling. It’s why I’ve done it three times.
What Makes A Surrogate?

Is there a hard and fast set of personality traits and lifestyle choices that make or break a great surrogate? No. With all this being said, these are some of the commonalities among most women that become surrogates through my programs:

  • Fierce determination
  • A love of pregnancy and birth experiences
  • A deep sense of worth as a woman and Mother
  • Personal knowledge of the pain infertility causes
  • Mothers who juggle the stresses of raising children well
  • Their own family is complete
  • Love and respect for their body
  • Empathy
  • The capacity for commitment
  • A desire to change the world, masked as a need to ‘fix’
Their Dream must become your Dream.

The driving force behind surrogacy is a deep connection between the person who desires a baby and the one who can provide it. Saying YES means you are all in. It’s a commitment to intertwine your life with theirs and handle all the ups and downs that come with that decision. You can’t be one foot in and one foot still lingering on the fence. It’s a choice that once made, needs to be taken seriously. We make choices every day for our lives. Some are meniscal, but others have immense weight to them. Choosing to be a surrogate means that as your life ebbs and flows through the pregnancy, you have to keep in mind how it will affect the couple you are helping. Of course, it goes without saying that life can throw curveballs that truly derail our commitment to others, but when that deep connection happens and resilience runs deep, it is rare to see women walk away from that promise. Because walking away from that promise means breaking someone who is already so profoundly broken. And I never want to break anyone that way. When I say yes, that’s my contract to them and to myself. So I make sure I’m ready to say yes. But some people can’t see past their own struggles to look deeper into their commitment. They let illogical fear make the decisions for them. It’s a sacrifice for a short period of time for someone who has no other choices. They desperately want what you have – a family.

The ripple effect of that choice will be for generations to come. You are creating a life that wouldn’t exist otherwise and that life might create more lives. My first two surrogate babies were the only grandchildren on either side of the family. I wasn’t just deeply connected with my Intended Parents, I was deeply connected to their entire family.


The whole reason I started this business was to bring people together on a unique level. But I can’t force people to be better; to aspire to be great. It has to come from within. I can plant the seed of love and ideas through my community talks, writing blogs, and bringing awareness, but the character of people is what shines. When those great women find me, the connection is instant.

Come fill out an application and let’s have a conversation together.

Why choose us?

We set standards for how surrogacy should be approached in Canada. Founder, Angela Truppe sits on an Ethics Committee with a team of professionals in the industry to ensure that the decisions made within her program are above reproach and do not compromise the integrity of her clients. The team at CSC are always striving to offer the best resources, guidance, and support through every step of the process.

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